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Greetings!

2008-08-22T06:53:25Z

Hi Everyone,
I am new and wanted to say hi!!

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THE POLY TANTRIC LOVESTYLE by Janet Kira Lessin www.worldpolyamoryassociation@aol.com

2008-08-19T16:43:08Z

THE POLY TANTRIC LOVESTYLE by Janet Kira Lessin www.worldpolyamoryassociation@aol.com
Consider a tantric poly (= polyamorous--loving two or more) lifestyle where you share tantra–sacred sex. A polytantric lifestyle. We’ve considered it and we live it. We advocate it as an option for all.

We’ve explored on our own and heard thousands of poly-loving and tantric people. We’ve shared experiences and led scores of alternate relationship and sacred sex conferences and seminars. In our seminars, we’ve used humanistic and transpersonal psychology as well as tantric meditation to explore multi-lover relating to aid our spiritual synergy.

Many couples today explore polyamory and swinging. Ever-increasing droves of people flock to conferences, new clubs, websites, private "lifestyle" and "playcouple" activities all over the world.

Most paired-up people who swing or love in a polyamorous triad or moresome enhance their erotic and romantic connection with each other. Some couples, however, seek the lifestyle for the wrong reason–to fix their dysfunctional relationships. In such couples, rather than improve their sour relating, polyamory or swapping may trigger breakups. But most pairs who sample polyamory or the lifestyle deepen their love and intimacy with each other when they love others.
Genetic tests show most humans’ actual behavior is not sexually exclusive with monogamous mates. Our sexual behavior resembles that of our genetically closest primate, the chimp-like Bonobos. Like Bonobos, we couple with multiple partners, though unlike Bonobos, who openly copulate in front of their sexual partners, humans more often hide their non-monogamous coupling from sight and knowledge of their mates. Such hiding reduces the intimacy of relating between the cheater and his or her mate.
Most humans are actually covertly polysexual (more than one sexual partner), while only some, albeit a swelling number, are overtly polyamorous (one than one love in their life).
Most of us keep loving lovers even after we or they end our sexual connection. I love everyone I’ve ever loved and most people who come to me for therapy continue loving those they've loved in their lives.
Our hearts open and we love those we make love with, especially if we regularly enjoy sex with them. We fall in love with people with whom we share sex. We humans--male or female--develop affection, warmth, desire to enjoy one another time and again when we make love over and over with each other. We naturally bond. We love.
Society’s realizing the falseness of old beliefs, beliefs like the belief that most of us are faithfully monogamous or the belief that you can have sex without becoming fond of your lovers. Instead, as the growing polyamorous and lifestyle couples attest, We all have a huge capacity to love and enjoy sex. Many of us are more than able to love many and have tons of sex at the same time. I learned by making love with others while I’m still in love with my husband that I’m ever more turned-on to lovemaking.
Many people nowadays stop connecting sexually with their spouses. I’m a counselor. At least ten times a week couples complain they don't make love anymore. Why? Do we simply get bored with one another? Are we angry? Resentful? I know from my own past and the experiences of those I counsel, that partners who still live together but don't connect sexually with each other still love each other. They panic when they consider leaving no-sex spouses who used to make love with them, because they still love them. They’re friends, comfortable with one another. They mix finances and perhaps raise children together. They know and love each other’s relatives; they share friends and interests together. They don’t want to lose what they’ve built. They don’t want to sell their homes, divide their holdings. So many reasons to stay together, crazy to part just because they stopped sharing sex with each other or because they love others.
Counseling helps non-sexual couples open to sex with each other again. Tantra can also help rekindle their desire; I highly recommend it. But what really enthuses a couple to juicy sex with each other is swinging or polyamory. Couples return home to each other, turned-on from their erotic encounters with others and screw each other’s brains out for days. When they f*ck like minks, chemicals flow, they feel close and feel again in love with each other.
I used to be on the polyamory-only bandwagon. But after intensely studying the swinger movement for the past nine years, I see they’re onto something. A strange piece of ass, watching your partner with someone else, touching two or three people at the same time, doing more than one at a time, breaking taboos, or stretching beyond your own boundaries turns people on.
Sure, there’s jealousy. That’s also human nature. We can use, then get over jealousy. Hang in there with your jealousy, ride it, experience it, feel it, talk it out and never make yourself or your lovers wrong about their feelings and soon you laugh seek sexual adventures together. Like explorers, or hunters on the prowl, together you’ll discuss who’s attractive, what’s attractive and actually be able to act on attractions if you chose.
I suggest couples trying polyamory or swinging stay together as they explore other loves. That’s what works the best for us. If you’re at all insecure, it can be harder for you to relax when your partner goes offstage with another lover, easier if you all share loving in each others’ view and, even better, co-participate. Couples who watch and share each others’ excitement build ever-more desire for each other.
Swinging may be too far out for some of us. Living together with more than one mate may be just as far out for others. A few couples whom we see regularly is the poly lifestyle that works best for Sash and me. I like getting to know new lovers on a very deep level and can do this living separately. Living with anyone but Sasha is hard for me; I get anxious with too many people around all the time. I’m a private person, need privacy, peace and quiet. So living apart and loving together now and again is fine with me.
Of course there’s a time for many to be monogamous for parts of their lives. I’ve done it and enjoyed it–for awhile. Though some folks are even happily monogamous all their lives, few love and want sex only with one person their entire lives. We may be mono (one), amorous (loving) part our lives. But cultural conditioning makes many of us continue monogamously despite the death of sex in the monogamous relationship and despite the fact that we have non-monogamous fantasies, desires and affairs. I have friends who fear losing face if peers knew they considered multi-lover intimacy.
However, if we humans are truthful, at least to ourselves in our own hearts, we are going to have to admit, one and all, that we have feelings and attractions for many, many people in the course of our lives. And when we get to that point, where we’re real with ourselves, than perhaps we can begin to forgive those who do what we dare not, and quit being so sanctimonious. Instead of shaming our politicians and celebrities, realize human nature. Bill and Hillary Clinton are probably in an open marriage. Bill just got careless. If they could talk truth, we’d progress light years.
Using modern DNA testing, we found 99.9% of all the species are non-monogamous. Our genetic cousins, the Bonobos practice polyamory, swinging and bisexual sex. We’re similar. Hospitals using DNA tests find many a dad on the birth certificate isn't the biological father.
Polyamory’s a high spiritual practice. So’s swinging. One swing club in Northern Washington State has a Goddess Ritual where a woman takes on all comers. She seats herself on a swing chair with an endless supply of condoms and the men line up out the door. Some women have been known take on 40 or 50 men during this ritual. She ends up in an enlightened, altered state of consciousness.
Besides being a high spiritual practice and very sexy, being polyamory and couple playing are fun. Cut lose and play as you might have when you were a kid playing outside on a hot Summer eve. When you’re all careful about STD’s and respectful, honest, courteous, kind, loving and playful with one another, you can make love in a puppy puddle with the same abandon you had when you were little playing football, wrestling or King of the Mountain. Poly’s fun.
Janet Kira Lessin, Chief Focalizer of the World Polyamory
Association, is featured presenter at the annual Harbin Hot Springs
(CA) Polyamory & Tantra Conference September 11-14. She and hubby
Sasha offer a workshop entitled " RITUALLY EVOKING FEMALE
EJACULATION IN A POLY POD CEREMONY"at the Conference and leads
the panel discussion, HOW WE DO POLY.
See www.worldpolyamoryassociation.com for details

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HONOR THE WOMEN IN YOUR POLY POD by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D.

2008-06-01T23:19:48Z

HONOR THE WOMEN IN YOUR POLY POD by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D.

Here's one of the ways we play with our group of intimate lovers. We
suggest you try it with yours.

Give yourself an evening for each woman, or a whole day to do each
woman in your lovegroup. Then let us on this site share our results
and develop love rituals from our collective sharing.

In a beautiful, peaceful, private space, gather the women in your
poly pod.

Ask one woman to volunteer as the first focus of this pattern. Each
woman takes a turn as the group's focus.

PREPARE YOURSELF AND THE SPACE FOR WOMAN WORSHIP

Givers, clean your nails. Brush your teeth afresh. If you're male
and clean-shaven, shave again; if you've a beard, shampoo it.

Dress to please the Receiver. Find food, drink, flowers and music
she'll like. Arrange the room to delight and relax her. Create a
large, padded lovenest. Place water, towels, massage oil and
internal lubricant next to the bed. Invite her to bathe while you
disconnect phones and adjust the lighting and music.

When she returns from the bath, each of you meet her gaze. Make eye-
contact with her as you adore her together.

Each of you say, in your own words--but poetic ones,"I appreciate
this opportunity to please and replenish you.

"May we undress you and see your body?" As you do, laud her looks
aloud. Then all of you disrobe too.

DEDICATE TOUCH TO PERSONAL AND UNIVERSAL HEALING

Invite her to lie down. Touch your right palms to her heart and put
her right hand on your heart. Rest your left hands on the back of
her right and tell her to put her left on the hands you rest on her
heart. Look into her left eye.

Tell her, in your own words, "We delight in serving you. We love
relating this intimately. May our adoration heal hurts we caused
you. May our hearts unite. Come dance with us, your devotees. Dear
Shakti, dance at the Shrine of the Yoni Nadi. There, together, we
transcend our separate self-senses and join the divine dance of the
cosmos."

"What words, "ask her, "have you to consecrate the worship we offer
your Inner Aphrodite, your loving, sensual, sexual self.? *** [Give
her time to answer.]

MASSAGE MADONNA

Then say, "May we massage you?"

As she stretches out on her belly, tug her toes. Rub her soles and
the backs of each leg. Do her fingers, palms, arms. Then massage
her back and her bottom.

Help her turn over. Dance your fingers over the tops of her feet and
hands, the front of her arms and legs. Brush her labia and nipples
as you glide your hands over her torso. Massage her face and head.

Stroke and knead the muscles inside the leg; Kneed the inside of her
legs, where they insert into her pelvis. Press your fingers deep
into the muscles above her pubic bone.

GET CONSENT TO TOUCH HER TEMPLE

Ask her to designate one of you to touch her Love Temple.

CONNECT ALL HER CHAKRAS WITH SACRED SECTOR ENERGY

All present lay hands on her. The person she chooses, her Giver,
rests their left hand on her HEART.

Giver, hold your right hand over her yoni. Imagine you send her a
beam of love from your eyes into her left eye. Breathe together
three times; then settle your hand on her mons.

Tell her, "I love you. Feel our hearts connect and energy vibrate
between us.

"I send you love as I breathe out; breathe it in, inhale my love."
The rest of the group breathes with the Giver and Receiver. Exhale,
then draw your navel back toward your spine and up. Tighten your
pubococcygeal and anal sphincter muscles.

Imagine, Giver, you send energy up your spine from your tailbone,
through your heart and out your right hand into her yoni. When you
inhale, feel the energy you have sent her move through her heart into
your left hand. Take at least three breaths where you send this
circuit of energy.

Keep your right hand on her yoni, your eyes on hers. Move your left
hand to her CROWN. Tell her you invite the Goddess of Love to enter
her crown and move through her central channel to her yoni-shrine.
Breathe together three times.

Move your left hand to her BROW, THROAT, BELLY and BASE chakras. For
each, take three breaths. Eye-gaze and imagine you connect with her
brow, throat, heart (again), then belly, perineal and sexual
chakras. Conclude these chakra meditations (mudras) with your left
hand again on her heart.

STROKE HER SACRED SECTOR

Tell your Receiver, "Relax on your back, Sweetheart. Breathe deeply.

"Let each of us gaze into your eyes.

If you like, I'll massage, then kiss your genital drapes and the
valence over your pearl.

If she says consents, say, "Make sounds and direct us with words;
give us feedback while I lick and stroke."

Stroke her outer labia. Roll her clitoral hood around the
clitoral crown; but don't stimulate the crown yet. When her outer
vaginal lips swell, revealing the inner lips, trace circles, spirals,
horizonals, verticals, diagonals, and figure-eights on them with your
fingers. Alternate long, short, inventive, sensitive and playful
strokes. Tap, knead and pinch the hood and labia ten or fifteen
minutes.

When the inner labia also become quite swollen with blood,
say, "Would you like me to polish your pearl?" (pearl = clitoral
crown). If yes, honor her yoni with your mouth and tongue. Blow on
her genitals. Plant baby kisses on her clitoris. Twill your tongue
round the crown and lick her labia. Lap into her yoni as you
continue gazing into her eyes. Salivate generously; lubricate the
orifice.

After twenty to thirty minutes honoring her yoni, say, "I'd like to
enter your sacred cave with this (right ring) finger." If she
agrees, lick your finger so it's quite moist (or use an internal
lubricant like Probe or neem oil). Place the tip of your ring finger
pad just inside her vaginal opening. Say, "Pull my finger in."

When you feel her vaginal muscles pulsing on your finger, let her
pull your finger into her cave. Curl your finger pad inside her yoni
toward her navel then back toward her inner legs, so it rests on her
sacred sector. Breathe together and keep your hand still for ten
deep breaths while you imagine that your finger reaches inside her to
her heart.

Begin a light "come here" motion with your ring finger; let the pad
of your finger caress the tissue that covers the sacred sector.
Trace, in thirty to forty strokes, the inner surface of the top and
upper front of her cave from cervix toward the top of her cave's
opening.

Then, for forty strokes or so, turn your wrist from side to side.
Trace a crescent over the sacred sector with your finger pad.

Sweep (turn your wrist from up to down) the left half of her cave.
Skim the front of your right ring finger from the cave roof to its
floor and outside door. Remove your right ring finger and insert
your left ring finger inside her yoni. With your left ring finger,
stroke the right half of the yoni roof.

After a few minutes, change your position to ease your back and
neck. Withdraw your left ring finger from her cave, and put your
right ring finger back in. Rub, tap, and touch all over inside her
cave. Stroke different levels of pressure, depths, speeds and
rhythms. Trace the throbbing veins and, deeper, arteries. Press to
the bone in each part of her cave.

After fifteen minutes, say, "Would you like one of us to pet you with
two fingers inside?" If she consents, curl the underside of your
right middle and ring fingers together along the roof-beam of her
yoni. Move your fingers down the transom over the door and out the
yoni, with a "come here" motion.

Then focus your fingers inside her on her sacred sector. You can
feel it through the inner vaginal wall, between the wall and the
pubic bone, above the orifice. The sector feels like a bean-sized
lump that may grow to silver-dollar size as you stroke it.
Initially, when her sector's stimulated, she may think (though she's
just emptied her bladder she needs to urinate. Let her try to do so
until no urine comes out.

Unite your fingers through her lower abdomen. Press your left hand
down on her lower belly just above the pubic bone. Feel her spot
swell between these fingers on her abdomen and those in her vagina.

If you find menstrual blood on your fingers, let her know you
treasure this intimacy. Dab some on each of your chests and thank
her.

The Receiver may enjoy all the touching. Some Receivers feel
indifferent to sacred sector massage at first. Most women, however,
savor some sacred spot stroking. Remember your Receiver's pleasure
points.

If you try this exercise, or something like it, please share on this
site what you tried and how it turned out.

Learn lots more at our POLYAMORY CONFERENCE, September 12-14
Harbin Hot Springs CA.

Workshops and presentations by
Drs. Gary Schubach, Steven Vouge, Anistas Harris, Dave Doleshal,
Harold (Haridas)Kornylak, Celeste Hirshman, and Sasha Lessin,
as well as
Janet Kira Lessin, Veronica Monet, Taber Shadburne, Gabriella
Cordover, Aisha Kassaoun, Paul Glassco, Danielle Harel, Kirsten Rose,
David Spero, Robert Allen, Amber Seitz, Carolina Fleishman, Paul
Planodon and even more tba.

www.worldpolyamoryassociation.com, worldpolyamory@aol.com 808 244-
4103

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Raven's Retreat BDSM Events

2007-04-09T04:29:38Z

Raven's Retreat April Newsletter
Please Note: All events are guest listed and require an RSVP to attend. The party location will be sent as a reply to your RSVP.

April 13: En Femme Friday
En Femme Fridays are a celebration of the woman within. The primal feminine element. These nights are geared towards t-girls and their admirers. Men and women who appreciate the feminine element in themselves and others are welcome. Drinks and Munchies Provided.
Location: Raven's Retreat in Chilliwack (RSVP to attend and for directions)
Cost: $10 members, $20 non members
Party Runs: 7pm-2am
Age: 18+
RSVP: rsvp@ravensretreat.com with the subject line April 13 En Femme RSVP
Full Event Details: http://www.ravensretreat.com/2007/02/17/en-femme/

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April 28: ABDL/Age Play Munch
What is this munch?! It’s a play group for adult babies and adult baby friendly age players, diaper lovers, mommies, daddies, little girls, and little boys, etc, who would like to get together in a safe friendly environment and socialize. Drinks and Munchies provided.
Location: Raven's Retreat in Chilliwack (RSVP to attend and for directions)
Cost: $10
Party Runs: 1pm-5pm
Age: 18+
RSVP: rsvp@ravensretreat.com with the subject line April 28 ABDL Munch RSVP
Full Event Details: http://www.ravensretreat.com/2007/03/16/abdl-munch/

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April 28: Fly Play Party and Piercing Workshop with Elwood
Elwood is a body modification artist who is a certified advanced body piercer, a certified body brander, scarification artist and flesh hook specialist, not to mention a myriad of other talents, and being a great all around guy! We’ll be starting off the night with the following workshop by Elwood on play piercing, and then for the rest of the evening Elwood will be doing body modifications (piercing, branding, and cutting) for those who’ve arranged in advance with the house to get work done that night.

More Information about Elwood: http://www.ravensretreat.com/2007/02/17/fly/

For Body Piercing you MUST RSVP to rsvp@ravensretreat.com with the subject line "Apr 28 Fly: I want to be poked by Elwood" with the type of piercing you would like done by Elwood at the party.

Body Piercing Price List:

Ear Lobe $30 Both Ear Lobes $50
Ear Rim $50 Tragus $60
Anti-Tragus $60 Daith $60
Conch $60 Rook $60
Orbit $80 Project $80
Dermal Punch $120 Monroe $70
Tongue $75 Oral Frenum $70
Eyebrow $55 Smiley/Frowny $60
Teardrop $55 Madison $60
Earl $75 Nostril $40
Septum $75 Labret $70
Vertical Labret $70 Nape $90
Lip Ring $70 Navel $60
Nipple $65 Both Nipples $110
Third Eye $70

Below The Belt Piercings

Male
Prince Albert $100 Frenum $90
Hafada $90 Scrotum $90
Guiche $120 Ampallang $110
Apadravya $110 Pubic male $80

Female
Pubic Female $80 Inner Labia $75
Outer Labia $75 Horizontal Hood $70
Vertical Hood $70 Fourchette $90

All prices include the cost of basic jewelry. Special request jewelry will adjust the cost of the piercing. Ask the piercer for details. elwood@allaboutelwood.com

Brandings and Cuttings
Please contact Elwood directly at elwood@allaboutelwood.com or 604-836-5013 to inquire about brands and cuttings that you would like to have done while at the party. Unlike piercings, brands & cuttings are custom and vary from piece to piece. Please contact us at rsvp@ravensretreat.com to let us know that you have made arrangements with Elwood to be branded or cut at the party.

Location: Raven's Retreat in Chilliwack (RSVP to attend and for directions)
Cost:
Non-Members - $10 if you only go to the workshop.. $25 for the workshop and party combined. Members $5 workshop only. $15 for workshop and party.
Drinks and Munchies Provided.
Doors Open: 7pm
Workshop Runs: 8pm-9/9:30pm
Play Party Runs: 9/9:30pm-2am
Age: 18+
RSVP: rsvp@ravensretreat.com with the subject line April 28 Fly & Piercing Workshop
Full Event Details: http://www.ravensretreat.com/2007/02/17/fly/

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About Raven's Retreat:
Raven’s Retreat is a private dungeon space and BDSM bed and breakfast located in Chilliwack, B.C., Canada. We are 90 minutes from Vancouver Canada, and 90 minutes from Bellingham Washington. We have over 1000 square feet of dungeon space split into two large rooms with several play stations. The house and dungeon is run by Mistress Katt and Master Wolfe, active members in the kink community in BC for well over a decade. We maintain high standards in cleanliness and safety, education and awareness. The dungeon space is used for pro-domination services with Mistress Katt and/or Master Wolfe, rent-able by members by the hour/day/weekend for personal and professional use, house play parties, educational workshops and seminars, as well special events and venues. We cater to special interests groups as well as mainstream kinksters, and people with all levels of experience - from newcomers to the scene to community leaders and educators. We strive to be inclusive in our undertakings, and welcome diversity in the scene, engendering an atmosphere of respect, tolerance, education and support.

All events are guest listed. To be put on the guest list for our events, e-mail us at rsvp@ravensretreat.com with the event you would like to attend in the subject line and how many guests you will be bringing in the main body of the e-mail. Once we receive your RSVP we will e-mail you our address and a map of how to get to us.

Yours in Kink,
Mistress Katt and Mister Wolfe
www.ravensretreat.com

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Date .... ME!!!!

2007-04-06T19:58:43Z

Where do YOU go to meet new potential dates? Is online dating successful? Pubs, bars, clubs......racket ball?!?!!?

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Shortbus

2007-03-23T11:11:17Z

See it. You'll love it!

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In a perfect world....

2007-02-07T04:26:20Z

what does alternative lifestyle living look like for you? How close are you in your real life to that ideal? What's stopping / assisting you?

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Lots of new members to this tribe....

2007-02-07T04:22:31Z

So lets' get some threads going.

Q: How do you express you alternative loving style in Victoria (or YOUR town)? Is Victoria (YOUR town) as conservative as the older residents perceive it to be?

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VanIsle-Poly Meet & Greet - Victoria, BC

2007-02-07T04:17:30Z

Friday February 23rd, 7:30 pm at Alzu's Restaurant (Bay & Blanshard Sts)
Go to the left as you enter the restaurant and look for the parrot on the table.
Newbies are welcome. Come on out and meet some GREAT people who believe in the concept of Polyamory or non-monogamy.

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Van Isle Polyamory Group - Meet & Greet

2006-11-20T02:24:13Z

Friday November 24, 2006, from 7:30 pm
Alzu's Restaurant, Bay Street and Blanshard Street in Victoria, BC.

Look for the parrot on the table.

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Pangender Homeland Search Tribe

2006-11-07T18:22:04Z

join us.

www.tribe.tribe.net/panhome

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hello

2006-09-17T17:31:27Z

i am new here and wanted to find some people to chat with, i am female and married to my Mistress, W/we live in Ogden, Utah and obviously lesbian, i just joined tribe and dont really know alot about it yet.

thanks to A/all who respond

angel

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The Warm Fuzzy Resort Weekend - Oct 20-22 - Sooke, BC (just outside of Victoria)

2006-09-17T17:21:15Z

The Warm Fuzzy Resort Weekend
A"Warm Fuzzy" - is a big full body bear hug that lingers and creates a shared warm snuggily state of being for both people.

This is a Resort with cabins and hot tubs in Sooke, BC.
Informal workshop sessions include:
Reading Body language
Active Listening
Intuition & Non-verbal understanding
Exploring Sensory Communication
Therapeutic touch and energy work
Non-sexual massage
Cuddle Party
Facillitators are an art therapist and an adult educator & practicing Shaman who are also attendees donating their skills. (Anyone interested in attending and presenting a relaTted topic, please email vanisle_poly@yahoo.com )
$100 per person (2 nights) plus meals
You MUST pre-register and pay a non-refundable deposit by Oct 6th.
SPACE IS LIMITED.

No "commuters" - attendees must be there for the whole weekend to ensure the continuity of group dynamics.
NOT a sex party or orgie weekend.
NOT a kid friendly event.
Details with regards to location and meals will be forwarded to attendees upon receipt of deposit.

To register go to http://www.vanisle-polyamory.com/warmfuzzyrsvp.html

Zoe
Moderator VanIsle-Poly

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Your stripper stage name

2006-07-29T15:23:27Z

Ok, let's try something to get this little group chatting. Here's how to determine your personal stripper stage name:
1. Take your first name from the first pet you ever had as a child
2. Take your last name from the first named street (not a # or PO box, etc) that you remember living on.
3. Combine these for your exotic name.

Thanks to my family's first Siamese cat, I would be known as the tantalizing: "Mia Woodlily" :)

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Queers over 40 tribe

2006-07-29T06:25:23Z

Hey all , just wanted to put this out there.
I have a queers over 40 tribe. for me Its for men, women, trans etc.

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Are there any women here who love to bite?

2006-07-02T01:38:17Z

As you have figured out, my fetish is for teeth and biting. I love biting and being bitten, though I prefer to be on the receiving end. I'd like to know if there are some women out there who share my fetish. If so, I'd like to hear from you.

MN

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hello

2006-05-05T04:24:08Z

I just signed up on tribe and am slowly navigating my way around and joining tribes here and there...I have a website www.flyingtrannys.com which is directed at promoting a cycling trip across Canada to raise both Trans and suicide awareness. The trip is in memory of a friend of mine...a tranwoamn who took her own life last April...please check it out an dif you can help out in any way feel free to e-mail me.

Cheers,

Keenan

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hello--is there anybody out there

2006-05-05T02:00:36Z

Hello--I just joined this group, is it still active?? I would like to meet some tranny lovers--any gender.

Mel.

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WILL COUPLE LOVE NEWBIES MORE? Janet Kira Lessin worldpolyamory@aol.com

2006-03-01T02:13:33Z

WILL COUPLE LOVE NEWBIES MORE? Janet Kira Lessin worldpolyamory@aol.com

MIDWESTERNER wrote, “What would happen if my wife opened herself up emotionally or if
we agreed to allow each other to be more emotionally attached. Would
I later desire the other woman more or she desire the other man
more or some other conflicting combination of feelings?

JANET: My husband, Sasha, and I were blessed to fall in love with a very special
couple. Our commitment to each other was so total and complete, and the other
couple was so devoted to each other, there was never any doubt that we'd
remain involved with our primary partners while loving all the way around.

There did come a point where my love for the other woman felt threatening to
the other man, so they withdrew from us and are no longer involved with us.
And yes, ouch, that hurt. But, I'd do it all again, because the love I
felt and the love we all felt will always be. I have the love, I have the memories and
I have the model that LOVING MORE THAN ONE REALLY WORKS.

Many couples do move into deep sexual and emotional intimacy and some
experience feelings in varying degrees and intensity over the course of the
relationship with their new partners. It's part of the thrill, part of learning how
to love. We feel what we feel. Feelings ARE. They are often uncontrollable
and seem to have a life of their own. Some couples, especially couples that
engage in swinging, pledge emotional fidelity with one another. But
realistically we feel what we feel. We can however make agreements and honor them and
do certain behaviors, like REMAIN HONEST IN OUR COMMUNICATION, STAY TOGETHER; NEVER ABANDON ONE ANOTHER, no matter what we feel for other partners.

Couples make commitments to stay together no matter what, work out the
dynamics of relating with others and RIDE THE WAVE OF EMOTIONS. There may be
some risk, but it sounds as if you are both very much in love with one another,
committed and devoted, secure enough that you'll remain true and you'll
LEARN, GROW, EXPAND AND REMAIN TOGETHER no matter what.

Janet Kira Lessin, Chief Focalizer for the World Polyamory
Association, is featured speaker at the Annual Harbin Hot Springs
Polyamory Conference, "Celebrate Relationship Choice, May 2-14, 2006
Harbin Hot Springs, CA. See www.worldpolyamoryassociation.com

ps: A couple of “flamers,” Sina and Ali by name, compulsively attack anything I write in the respond section of Tribe.net. They obviously need our compassion; nonetheless, please react to my manifest content and don’t let their obsessions deter you from gaining what you may by reading my ideas. Attacking a person rather than dealing with her ideas is a logical fallacy, known as the ad hominim fallacy.

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Erotic Film Festival

2005-04-30T14:23:45Z

May 6 - 8 in Victoria

for more info check the website..
http://www.tripleffilm.com/

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New Dungeon in Victoria

2005-04-03T20:37:10Z

Bleeding Rose Dungeon passes are now available.

You can get them in standard, bronze, silver and gold. Eash level is
a yearly pass and each successive level has more perks and more
things to offer pass holders. We are a sex positive and blood
positive play space.

Bleeding Rose will be having at least 2 play parties a month plus
special events held in our dungeon as well as other venues,
workshops, mixers(poly, swingers, bdsm) etc. For more information or
to purchase an annual pass, please call 250-385-3099. The
information will also be available on our website by the end of this
week.

There will be a special "early bird special" to the first 50 people
who buy passes starting Monday, May 31, 2004.

See you soon,

April Grant
Bleeding Rose Afterdark
584 Johnson St.
Victoria, BC V8W 1M3
250-385-3099
www.bleedingrose.com

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workshop

2005-04-03T20:28:59Z

hi all.. I just received an email about this workshop starting on wednesday. thought it might be of interest to some of you..

Creating an Erotic Community

Individually or as partners, most women and men want a richer erotic life. What at one time may have come spontaneously, now may seem more illusive, more complex. The separateness created by our isolating society and rigged relationship models does not foster alternate models for a healthy and vibrant sexual direction. Added to this is the wearying demand of ordinary daily life.

These things and more – negative religious training, job pressure, the weight of responsibility -- tend to block the potential for a more sensually adventurous and fulfilling life. Typically, we go off on unconscious pursuits of promising fantasies that end in frustration or worse. We are often too embarrassed or too intimidated to get what we really want sensually.

This workshop is a guided exploration into the various ways of expanding your personal sexual growth. Very simply, it is an experiential seminar encouraging us to bring to our erotic adventures the same values we hold to be important in the rest of our lives – a ready humour, personal honesty, discriminating taste, mutual openness, genuine caring for others, self-confidence, a spirited imagination, and a splash of spontaneity. These values when applied to one’s erotic world can transform desired social experiences into something both physically exceptional and spiritually enlightened. From there, we may begin to shape an erotic community.

The opening evening will be an introduction of the leaders, a presentation of the up-coming weekly programs, and a time to get to know one another, encouraging a free exchange of everyone’s sexual wisdom, concerns, and follies.

About the Leaders: Beck Peacock and Carol Pharo have been partners for eighteen years. Between them they bring a wealth of training, experience and research drawn from a wide array of sexual learning sources. These include:

· Bio-energetic training with Stanley Keleman at Esalen in Big Sur.
· Membership in the Sandstone community, an experimental community chronicled in the book The Neighbor’s Wife by Gay Talese
· A two-year program of learning at Astarte (a female-lead sexual growth center),
· Several weekend workshops led by Betty Dodson, New York artist and author of Orgasms For Two.
· Sexual communication courses with the MORE Community, a San Francisco group dating back to the early 70s.
· Fifteen years of participation in American Indian Spiritual/Sexuality teachings and ceremonies with Harley Swiftdeer and the Sweet Medicine Lodge,
· Director of Petals, a documentary video featured in “The Festival of Forbidden Fruit”, a Victoria event in early May of erotic video and film art.

Beck & Carol now live in Victoria, their previous lives were spent in California.

When: An Introductory Meeting is Wednesday, March 30th 7:00-10 PM

Where: _The Wrong Side of the Tracks Café, 526 Esquimalt Road.

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April Events for VanIsle-Poly

2005-04-03T20:24:55Z

Thurs Apr 7 - (7:30 PM) - Poly Women`s Group - A safe environment for women to meet and discuss the women`s perspective of polyamory. Dinner & Drinks at Alzu's Restaurant.

Fri Apr 15 - (7:30 PM) - Movie-aphiles Group - Special preference to poly themes with coffee and discussion to follow and a second feature if time allows. Video/DVD viewed in a private home.

Apr 13 - 22 - Meet the Kiwi CASUAL EVENTS - Visitor from a poly group in New Zealand. Come out and give him a friendly Victoria welcome. Tourist around town events and at least one night at Alzu's as well as private home events already here noted. Watch yahoogroup list messages for notices or ask to be on the welcoming committee email/phone list. vanisle_poly@yahoo.com

Fri Apr 22 -(7:30 PM) - Spring Spa Night - Intentional Community Meet. Learn massage and relaxation techniques. Friendship building gatherings of group members who have attended a previous event or a guest of a member. Potluck snackables and BYOB. Private Home.

Fri April 29 - (7:30 PM)- Meet & Greet - open to new members and interested visitors - no overt activities or conversations - safe and discreet initial contact with like-minded people. Alzu's Restaurant

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What's the best sex you've ever had.......come on tell us the wild and wonderful details.

2004-07-22T05:15:22Z

Now, if this question doesn't wake up this list nothing will.
Best sex I ever had was on the beach just as dawn and a lunar eclipse met over the Juan de Fuca straight. Early birds, a coast guard patrol and some dude walking his dogs were the only witnesses.
First sex of the relationship and a special astronomical moment.
Was awesome.

And then there was sex on the balcony for the neighbours on the upper floors of the next building. You can't beat exhibitionism for an aphrodisiac. lol.

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BIO Kink Play Party Saturday July 3: Vancouver BC

2004-06-29T23:56:15Z

BIO Play Party
with “Putting Playful back in Play” workshop
Saturday July 3
The Video In
1965 Main Street, Vancouver
Doors 7:30pm
Workshop: 8pm-9:30pm
Play party until 1am
Cost: $15

BIO’s next play party on Saturday July 3rd is back at our staple location, The Video In located at 1965 Main Street, Vancouver. Access is through the back alley entrance, however those requiring wheel chair access may ring the bell at the Main Street entrance in order to gain admission.

The evening opens with an innovative interactive workshop: “Putting PLAYFUL Back in Play” presented by Louise. We have all heard about brat play, but usually the bottom is the brat. This workshop is about the Top being a brat.

As a Top, we don’t always have to use whips, canes, paddles or rope to bring a rise to the senses of a bottom. Using odd, often humorous, implements, we can make a scene playful while still providing stimuli and maintaining control.

Making bottoms experience BDSM in a way that might be slightly confusing to them, can often heighten the experience. Throwing an unsuspecting bottom slightly off kilter by using bizarre “toys” and placing them in unusual situations can lend a more light-hearted air to a scene while still delivering high sensation. The bottom will not just be able to be present and receive a beating or do what they are asked to do... Life is gonna be a little bit less straightforward, and much much more mischievous.

Louise will bring items that you don’t usually find in a toy bag. She encourages attendees to bring implements and ideas that they have found to be effective in making their scenes less serious and more playful. She’s hoping that the audience will be open to discussing these unusual methods and inspire each other to think beyond the serious side of being a Top.

This is not a workshop for Tops/Dommes only. “I have gotten some of my weirdest ideas from bottoms,” explains Louise. “Strangely enough they were never the victim at that time.”

Please remember that if you are going to attend you must email us at BIO@vancouverdungeon.com with “Confirmed July 3” in the subject line before 2pm on the day of the party. If this is your first time at a play party please visit the BIO website at http://www.vancouverdungeon.com/ and take the time to read our Frequently Asked Questions page.

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Psssssssstttttttttttt.......pass it on!

2004-05-25T00:02:00Z

Please invite your friends and post this address to other yahoogroups that you belong to. We'd like to see notices of events and threads of interest to all alternative lifestyle groups on Vancouver Island posted to this list.

www.tribe.net/inclusivelyalternative

Thanks,
Z.

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Looooooooooonnnnnnnng Weekend

2004-05-24T03:17:23Z

Beautiful weather here in Victoria.
Beach frollicking is a number on priority for those of us who didn't escape the city for parts unknown.
What are YOU up to this weekend?

Z.

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How to do polyamory well and thoroughly. (Workshop)

2004-05-16T17:58:07Z

ETHICAL SLUTS - How to do polyamory well and thoroughly. An interactive
workshop with Dossie Easton (co-author of "The Ethical Slut")

Saturday June 5th
SFU Harbour Centre, (Fletcher Challenge Room)
Ticket prices: $25
Tickets available at Little Sister's, and at the Vancouver (Broadway)
and Surrey BDSM munches.

As all the wonderfully different kinds of people we are, we play many
different roles with many different people, and many of us hope that
many of them are sexual. How do we manage our (sometimes very)
nonmonogamous lifestyles with full respect for all the members of our
sexual constellations? How do we deal with conflict, jealousy, time,
roles, mundane life and all that, and manage to have fulfilling and
connected relationships with all our lovers? In this workshop we will
research and discuss the skills that successful sluts have used to make
a community of lovers where everyone gets her needs met and no one gets
done wrong.

Dossie Easton, a San Francisco family therapist, is co-author with
Janet Hardy of The Ethical Slut, a guide to infinite sexual
possibilities as well as The Bottoming Book , The Topping Book and When
Someone You Love is Kinky. They are currently working on a new book,
Radical Ecstasy, about transcendent states of consciousness in sex and
SM, to be released in the Fall. As a licensed psychotherapist she works
with individuals, couples and more in her private practice, and has
extensive experience over the past thirty years with a wide variety of
open sexual lifestyles. Dossie has been an active sex radical since
1961, and she does not intend to quit.

Partial proceeds to the Little Sisters Defence Fund
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(Info above taken from the organizer's website:
http://www.vancouverdungeon.com/home.html)

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new

2004-04-26T18:30:41Z

Hello all,
I'm new to this tribe thing and also new to van-isle poly group. I 'm also new to Victoria and looking to make some new friends! will post more later as I get used to navigating around...

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Yay!

2004-04-26T06:53:50Z

I'm very glad to see this new tribe. I think you all will like the site... it takes a little getting used to but it's a great networking tool once you get the hang of it.
fun fun fun... and welcome to tribe :)
if you have any questions about tribe let me know.. I've been on the site a while and use it a lot so I may be able to help out...

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